To William and David: I twitch with the best of them. I even get out the flame thrower, turn it on high, and sit down and start writing. But then I save the draft and let it sit there if I feel I've let somebody have it. Many a time I have gotten up the next morning and read what I have saved and go, "Oh my.. Good thing I didn't send it. " I then ask myself if how I have expressed myself is effective at communicating what I want to say and what I hope they will hear. Understanding is hard to come by when the flames are leaping around you. Expressing your anger can be an effective emotion, but most of the time it is destructive. And the readers of this list do not want to be feel splattered by the bloodletting as a couple of people go for the jugular and one-upsmanship. I do have dirty laundry, but I try to keep it in the hamper.. And if someone's going to be an ass no matter what, who am I to stand in the way? I'm all for full disclosure! David and William, I don't know if I have enough money to pay you for your kind remarks. It'd empty my bank account. Granted, there's not much in there, but still. Thank you, I am touched. Your non-snarky pal, Will From: pianotech-bounces at ptg.org [mailto:pianotech-bounces at ptg.org] On Behalf Of David Andersen Sent: Friday, February 12, 2010 3:30 PM To: pianotech at ptg.org Subject: Re: [pianotech] attitudes and such OK. Let me clarify. Snarkiness, or sarcasm, or judgement, WILL happen, which is what Jason is saying. WHEN it happens---inevitably---everybody learns; it's a gut/reality/community check. My pal Will simply has less fast-twitch emotional response than a lot of us...and a tremendous amount of hard-won clarity and wisdom. We would never see it in all its glory without the occasional snarkified exchange here. We're going for excellence here, Mr. Monroe, not perfection. Perfection kills. Let it roll. DA On Feb 12, 2010, at 12:04 PM, William Monroe wrote: I respectfully disagree, Jason. Snarkiness does no one any good. It is short-sighted, self-absorbed, condescending trash and should be left on the (back) doorstep. Professional, thoughtful responses are far more beneficial for both parties. Dripping sarcasm is one thing (in fun), but the line is easily crossed into intolerance. I believe there is always ample opportunity to practice those other nice character traits you've mentioned, Jason, (empathy, self-recognition, the courage to speak up, and the humility to apologize) without the making an Ass of yourself pre-requisite.. ;-] If you are searching for a listee to emulate when you formulate a response, of the many courteous listees, I recommend Will Truitt. Always considerate, professional, and empathetic, even when dealing with someone challenging - and yet, he still gives and receives valuable, non-patronizing information - it can be done! Keep it up Will (my hero). ;- [] Just my non-snarky two cents. William R. Monroe On Fri, Feb 12, 2010 at 1:32 PM, Jason Kanter <jkanter at rollingball.com> wrote: Personally, I think a little snarkiness is good for us all once in a while. Both for the snarker and for the snarkee. It provides the occasion to reflect on opportunities for improvement. It gives us all the opportunity to practice empathy, self-recognition, the courage to speak up, and the humility to apologize. Jason | || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| jason's cell 425 830 1561 | || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| || ||| -------------- next part -------------- An HTML attachment was scrubbed... URL: <http://ptg.org/pipermail/pianotech.php/attachments/20100212/feb044c6/attachment-0001.htm>
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