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<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>Thanks =
for your
timely and encouraging post Mary.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>Many =
of us try to
share and recieve technical advice, but we tend to stop short
of mentioning the fact <EM>"poor interpersonal skills"</EM> =
can
undermine an otherwise potentially succesfull =
career.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2> </FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial =
size=2>(there's a certain
attendant in a local lumberyard I describe as having a =
"career-limiting
mouth" ;>)</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff =
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>Thanks =
also for
illustrating that the "fact" these skills "can" be learned and
practiced. </FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>(I =
will have to call
a client this week and apologize for a spontaneous comment I made
about their piano. Ten minutes after the fact, replaying it in my =
head, I
realize it came out "a little different" than intended) (my
"career-limiting mouth" in action!) </FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>Some =
folk are
"naturally gifted" with people skills, some with salesmanship, while =
others
possess uncanny technical or deductive skills. </FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>The =
rest of us have
to "work" at it. </FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>So a =
"third thanks"
Mary, for busting some persistent myths!</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>best
regards,</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial size=2>Mark
Cramer,</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial =
size=2>Brandon
University</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=750360916-09032005><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
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<DIV class=OutlookMessageHeader dir=ltr align=left><FONT =
face=Tahoma
size=2>-----Original Message-----<BR><B>From:</B> =
caut-bounces@ptg.org
[mailto:caut-bounces@ptg.org]<B>On Behalf Of </B>Mary =
Smith<BR><B>Sent:</B>
Wednesday, March 09, 2005 9:00 AM<BR><B>To:</B> College and University =
Technicians<BR><B>Subject:</B> Re: [CAUT] William
Wolfram<BR><BR></FONT></DIV>Hi Wim,<BR><BR>OK, I have one thing to =
offer you
regarding "thick skin." Steve Covey's book, "The 7 Habits of Highly =
Effective
People" is extremely helpful. I actually did teach a class based on =
this book
a couple years back at a National seminar, habits adapted for piano =
techs, of
course. One of the ways this book was helpful to me was that I learned =
to set
my own internal "barometer" in terms of my work and skill level, i.e., =
set my
own goals, values, and system of evaluation. Of course, we always rely =
on
external input (or else we get into REAL trouble!), but bear in mind =
that YOU
determine the course of your work. Seek to understand the other guy =
before you
seek to be understood Habit #5, I think), but also know yourself well =
enough
to remain unshaken when your work is criticized. Also, I think about =
what one
of my friends (a professional violinist) told me about how there is no =
secret
to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everybody =
(my own
personal challenge!). Anyway - there's my little pep talk for
you!<BR><BR>Cheers,<BR>Mary<BR><BR>At 10:24 AM 3/8/2005 -0500, you =
wrote:<BR>
<BLOCKQUOTE class=cite cite="" type="cite"><FONT face=arial =
size=2>In a
message dated 3/7/05 6:17:39 P.M. Central Standard Time,
hgreeley@stanford.edu writes:<BR></FONT>
<DL>
<DD>Concert work is a crap shoot, no matter how good/bad one might =
individually be as a technician. You/one/_anyone_ is only as =
good as
your/their last tuning...period. Further, survival is not at =
all
necessarily reserved for the most fit. There is a very =
simple bottom
line which must be addressed before getting too deep into concert =
work
(beyond the point of it being a relatively occasional service for =
the
local MTA/whatever); and, that is, just how thick is your/anyone's =
skin? Doing "real" concert work is brutal...not at all the =
way it is
seemingly idealized by so many. One either learns to live =
with the
inevitable slings and arrows, or, wisely, one chooses to leave the =
field
to those whose egos either need and/or can withstand the
onslaught.<BR><BR></DD></DL>Horace<BR> <BR>Thank you for your =
advice.
This is the one area of concert work that I need to develop. =
(creating a
thick skin). As far as I know, this is not a class I have not =
seen
offered at any convention. <IMG alt=672582.jpg
=
src="cid:5.2.1.1.2.20050309085152.01531ba8@mail.utexas.edu.0"><BR> =
;<BR>Wim
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