why I don't post

[Dean May]

I thought walking away was the definition of thick skin.

Dean

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-----Original Message-----
From: pianotech-bounces at ptg.org [mailto:pianotech-bounces at ptg.org] On Behalf
Of Mike Spalding
Sent: Friday, September 28, 2007 11:21 AM
To: Pianotech List
Subject: Re: why I don't post

SK,

Yes, sometimes it's frustrating when your question doesn't get answered 
the way you expected.  Been there.  Possible reasons:

Unclear question statement.  Incorrect pre-conceived notion regarding 
what the answer is going to be.  Insensitive lister with an axe to grind. 

This is a diverse list, which gives diverse responses to most 
questions.  You and I can't control that.  The only thing we can control 
is how we respond/react to the behavior of the list.  Post a question, 
collect all the responses, decide whose to ignore or delete, thank the 
people who tried to help you.  If tantrums are ignored, they will 
diminish, perhaps stop.  If sincere helpfulness is thanked and praised, 
it will increase.  Can't win an e-mail fight, so just walk away.  No 
thick skin required.

Mike


buckscott at juno.com wrote:
> Hello all-
>
> I just want an answer to my question, not the question some of you think
> I should be asking.  
>
> No one should have to develop thick skin to participate in a civil
> conversation.  
>
> SK
>
>