I have had many advances made to me over the years and have even been offered "it!" One time, a younger lady showed me her whole house leaving her bedroom for the last room. She "FLOPPED" onto the bed and said "and, THIS, is MY bed." As she smiled and winked.. I responded with "and, where is YOUR piano?" She got up and took me to the piano with a very blushed and embarrassed face. The following year, I returned at which time she actually thanked me for not accepting her advance to me telling me point blank that she would have (hope this isn't to offensive but, it is exactly what she said) "screwed my brains out." I said well, I knew that but, I'm married and don't believe in that sort of thing. She thanked me again for having morals and scruples and sticking to them. On the other hand, I have customers that I've tuned for 35 years that will give me a hug when I come into the house. Just a HEY happy to see me hug. I repond in kind. Just yesterday in entering a church, I ran into a client I had been tuning for 25 years. I put my hand on her shoulder and said, "Well, HELLO stranger!" She turned around, touched my shoulder and said, HEY JER! HOW YA DOING!? So, it's a matter of keeping principals in tack and knowing the person in question well enough to be able to do that or not do that. -----Original Message----- From: pianotech-bounces at ptg.org [mailto:pianotech-bounces at ptg.org] On Behalf Of John Ross Sent: Saturday, April 04, 2009 8:23 AM To: pianotech at ptg.org Subject: Re: [pianotech] good that it is rare I have always wondered what I would do, if advances were made on me. I never had to worry, never happened and I am 71. I have worried about being accused of making advances. I have worried about being left alone with a little child, who sits on the bench beside me while tuning. You hear so many stories of people being accused of things. How can we protect ourselves from false accusations? How many of us have been falsely accused? A false accusation would certainly hurt your business. Or build up your business in a way you don't want. :-) John Ross Windsor, Nova Scotia ----- Original Message ----- From: "Pianoman" <pianoman at accessus.net> To: "Pianotech" <pianotech at ptg.org> Sent: Saturday, April 04, 2009 8:47 AM Subject: [pianotech] good that it is rare Yesterday I did a tuning for a lady who was the recipient of a friend of hers paying for her tuning. It had been over 10 years since it was last tuned..In small talk she stated that she was 56 years old. She was an attractive lady. Keep in mind that I am a little old (66) guy who has grown into the look of what people used to think piano tuners looked like, unassuming little old guys with nothing on their mind except piano tuning. In the process of taking it apart to tune she volunteers that she has not had it tuned for quite a while because the last tuner had made unwelcome advances to her. She did not say his name or did I ask. T The interesting thing is, that while I was there ,she puts her hand on my shoulder at least 4 times during my stay there. This is highly unusual to me. I never touch a client, as it is my policy, so it is kind of strange to be touched while working. I often wonder if people who complain about unwelcome advances give signals that they would welcome it? Have any of you had this same kind of thing happen? James James Grebe Since 1962 Piano Tuning & Repair Creator of Handsome Hardwood Products( 314) 608-4137 1526 Raspberry Lane Arnold, MO 63010 Researcher of St. Louis Theatre History BECOME WHAT YOU BELIEVE! www.grebepiano.com _____ avast! Antivirus <http://www.avast.com> : Outbound message clean. Virus Database (VPS): 090403-0, 04/03/2009 Tested on: 4/4/2009 11:26:57 AM avast! - copyright (c) 1988-2009 ALWIL Software.
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