clothing

[Farrell]

I knew you were lurking there somewhere! You just needed a poke!

Terry Farrell
  
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Ron Nossaman" <RNossaman@cox.net>
To: <pianotech@ptg.org>
Sent: Saturday, June 22, 2002 12:54 AM
Subject: Re: clothing


> >Unfortunately, I guess many folks do the judgement thing, and part of that 
> >may well depend on what you wear. I think it is unfortunate.
> >
> >When I go to a class at a convention given by Willis Snyder (and that is NOT 
> >a suit - THAT is a tuxedo he wears!), I see Willis in his black tux, and I 
> >think to myself (also while considering his experience and wisdom and 
> >generosity to teach the class) "what a cool dude - this guy is first class - 
> >I like him. And then I go to a class on bridge notching given by Ron Nossman 
> >and I see Ron in his blue jeans and tee-shirt, and I think to myself (also 
> >while considering his experience and wisdom and generosity to teach the 
> >class) "what a cool dude - this guy is first class - I like him.
> >
> >I dunno, maybe I'm just missing something.
> >
> >Terry Farrell
> 
> 
> Well, I was going to stay out of this one altogether - but since I just got
> juxtaposed to and categorized with Willis all at the same time (no
> offense), I guess I'll comment. 
> 
> Doing service work, I wear black slacks , shoes, socks, and a short sleeved
> shirt (button, not polo) of a generally low key color and pattern. No tie.
> It is calculated to split the difference between what the shallow and
> sundry "you are what you wear" crowd is expecting, and the equally shallow
> "it's the soul, man, not the wrapping" types are pretending to endorse. I
> call it my "tuning disguise", and it's about as big a concession to the
> social expectation of normalcy as I am willing to make on a day to day
> basis. It has been my experience through the years that the disguise serves
> merely to get me past the front door defense system, and into the lair
> where I have a chance to get beyond the diversionary facades and actually
> communicate with the customer on a person to person level. A whole lot of
> times, I have been initially met at the door by a fundamentally hostile and
> mistrusting attitude, based on first sight impression, and ended up
> discussing personal issues they very likely never told anyone else in their
> whole lives. It's kind of scary, but it's happened a lot. When they ask
> about their piano, they get more than they wanted or expected, and none of
> it sounds like a sales pitch. They get the truth as I see it, whether
> there's anything in it for me or not, or whether it's what they want to
> hear or not. This is an entirely new experience for most of them, and it
> makes enough of an impression that they don't seem to notice the dress or
> hair style after a while. Doing good work doesn't hurt either when it comes
> time to remember who to call next time.
> 
> So while we may inescapably be what we eat, we aren't necessarily what we
> wear - or if we are, I'm not sure I want to know us. 
> 
> You know what I mean.
> 
> Ron N